Monday, November 29, 2004

5 people you need around you to grow

I found this on a website check it out see you if you have people like this in your life to help strengthen and encourage you to grow it the Lord.

"We can do more together than we can ever do by ourselves."

“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” (Eccl. 4:9-12

"The more effective those you join with, the more effective your work for God becomes."

"The selection of people in your life is very important."

“Do not be misled: "Bad company corrupts good character." (1 Cor. 15:33)

In his book, "Renewing Your Spiritual Passion," Gordon McDonald writes of “Five Men You Need Around You To Grow.” Five question he poses are:

1. Who are my mentors?

”He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm.” (Prov. 13:20)

•Definition: a mentor is “someone who is a trusted counselor or guide; a tutor or coach.” A discipler is defined as “an individual or school who provides to another in spreading the doctrine of another”

Find someone to mentor you. It can be several people, but all five areas need be covered.
Someone who can help you grow in every area of your life.

“All those who were in distress or in debt or discontented gathered around him, and he became their leader. About four hundred men were with him.” (1 Sam. 22:2)

“In still another battle, which took place at Gath, there was a huge man with six fingers on each hand and six toes on each foot--twenty-four in all. He also was descended from Rapha. When he taunted Israel, Jonathan son of Shimeah, David's brother, killed him. These four were descendants of Rapha in Gath, and they fell at the hands of David and his men.” (2 Sam. 21:20-22; 23:8-39)

Harvard Business Review: Joseph Bailey, author of "Clues For Success In The President’s Job," said that when 30 key executives were interviewed they said that the one key to their career success was that they had all been mentored.

Sales Marketing & Management: of the top 100 companies that have done consistently well over the last 100 years, seven traits were consistent with all of them. The most pervasive key to long-term success? All of the major successful company key executives had mentors.
We all grow, learn, and develop by having someone who is beyond us pouring their life into us.

Ralph Waldo Emerson: “Our chief aim in life is somebody who shall make us do what we can.”
Are we living beyond our potential?

We will only change and grow in proportion to: the people we meet, the books we read, and the places we go.

We all need someone to stretch us.

Considerations Regarding Mentoring:
a. Do I want to become like this person? Are there qualities I need from them? Imitate them.
b. ABC’s of mentoring:
A: attitude––can this person show me how to think right?
B: belief––does this person believe in me?
C: character––is this a life worth following?
D: development––can this person develop me?

E: experience––have they been around the block?
I cant teach what I don't know.
I can't give what I don't have.
I can't come from where I haven't been.

F: fruitfulness––has there been success in their life in the area I'm wanting to imitate?

G: growth––is this person still growing?

You can teach what you know but you can only reproduce what you are.

Develop what you want in the relationship: the objective is not perfection, it is improvement.

When you hang out with “giant slayers” you'll become a “giant slayer.”

Accept a learning position: humble yourself; submit yourself to their teaching; listen more than you talk; observe and do.

Let many teach you over time.

Read biographies of other great people.

Read abroad.

Put into effect immediately what you learn.

Reward your mentor with progress because it will challenge them to greatness --success breeds success.

Show gratitude toward your mentor by mentoring others.

2. Who is my encourager?
Very few of us had the kind of dad that encouraged us to greatness. Even if you did not have that kind of dad, become that kind of dad.

We tend to become what the most important person in our lives thinks we'll become.
Encouragement and affirmation are great motivators: Charles Schwabb said:

“I've yet to find the man however exalted his station who did not do better work and put forth a greater effort under the spirit of approval than under the spirit of criticism.” It takes 50 words of encouragement to undue one word of criticism.

My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me. There is power in praise and encouragement.

3. Who is my confronter?

“Open rebuke is better than secret love. Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.” (Prov. 27:5, 6)

Confrontation develops, criticism destroys. To critique is to criticize.

It is holding someone accountable.

It is a spirit of submission.

Who is the person in your life who will ask you the hard questions?

The point is always to restore.

Elders should always have the right of appeal. We should trust them and we should unconditionally accept and submit to their final direction.
Regarding Confrontation:

• In tears: you must first prove friendship before you wound. You must earn friendship. You must be someone who really cares. Good leadership will always attempt to find the one person in your life who is closest to you to counsel you first in the “hard” things.

• Timing: where and when is often times overlooked, but has in fact, been the determining winning factor in more historical war engagements than any other factor.

• Trust: you must trust the individual.

4. Who is my intercessor: (Acts 20:18-38)

Bold in their witness (v. 20, 27)

Broken in their relationships toward people (v. 19, 24, 31)

Bridges between God and those they are praying for (v. 32)

Bonded together to those they are praying/ministering to.

5. Who is my partner?
Helps you and lifts your load.

Remember, one draft horse can pull two tons; two draft horses can pull 23 tons. There is power in numbers.

Grow in grace...

doug morrell

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I just thought it be good for everyone who reads this to think about the people they have near them, Pray for them and ask God to bless them, I'm sure they are doing the same for you.

God bless you in the Mighty Name of Jesus,
Zach Hill

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